Jane Austen Isn’t Just for Mothers and Daughters (So Says My Husband)

Sense and SensibilityMany readers operate under the misconception that Jane Austen’s work is “just for girls.”** By allowing this gender stereotype to dictate their reading choices, men (and women who avoid so-called “girly” books) have missed out on great literature.

Recently, the acknowledgments in Diana Peterfreund’s For Darkness Shows the Stars, a re-telling of Austen’s Persuasion, reminded me of the pervasiveness of these stereotypes. Peterfreund writes:

…to my husband, who got all excited at the thought of me finally writing sci-fi (and less so when I clarified that it would be a Jane Austen sci-fi)… Most of all: thank you Jane Austen…  for giving generations of mothers and daughters endless topics of conversation…

My husband might have been similarly lukewarm about a sci-fi Austen adaptation, before I encouraged him to give Jane Austen’s original works a chance. He finished Sense and Sensibility, enjoyed it, and has written the following review for this blog (see below).

Here’s to hoping that Austen’s books will give generations of mothers, fathers, daughters, and sons endless topics of conversation.

Mr. A.M.B’s Thoughts on Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility:

I have a list of books I want to read about a mile high and, perhaps unsurprisingly, Jane Austen’s works were not at the top of it. It’s not that I didn’t respect her work or that I thought it was strictly for girls — surely the word of Chief Justice John Marshall is enough to end that notion — but I didn’t think it would appeal to me. I’m more inclined to read a space opera or a biography than an early 19th century romance. On a whim, after watching The Jane Austen Book Club with Amal (A.M.B.), I vowed to read them all. She recommended I start with Sense and Sensibility, Austen’s first published work.

I’m about 200 years late to the Austen Admiration Society, but I do want to highlight a couple virtues of the work that resonated with me, and thus might resonate with other readers more at home with The Road and Fight Club than any book where the protagonist regularly wears a lace bonnet.

(1) Jane’s Quill Was Sharp As An Arrow

Sense and Sensibility includes some of the most wicked insults in the English language. Whenever Jane’s not slicing up characters — “However dissimilar in temper and outward behavior, they strongly resembled each other in that total want of talent and taste,” begins a few short lines that thoroughly summarize and then obliterate the Middletons — she’s laying waste to the whole of humanity: “She was not a woman of many words; for, unlike people in general, she proportioned them to the number of her ideas.” If the English language was a hammer for Hemingway, it is a Masamune samurai sword for Austen.

(2) Jane’s Characters Are Living, Breathing Humans

Yet, Jane’s characters are not mere targets for witticisms, nor props to move a plot along, but vivid, tangible, and fascinating characters. Sir John Middleton, for example, makes up for his “want of talent and taste” with a caring and loyal personality. For his faithful support — like his principled refusal, despite his gregarious and forgiving nature, to even speak to Willoughby after his mistreatment of Marianne — Jane bestows on him the power to “vex [Willoughby] horridly.” He is the one who “could not resist the temptation” to bluntly tell Willoughby that Marianne is “dying of a putrid fever,” which visibly reduces Willoughby to a shock, which again causes Sir John Middleton to “soften” considerably, as well it should. It is the very sort of assault, regret, and compassion we would expect of a loyal friend who is angry but not, at heart, malicious.

(3) The Themes Are Deeper And More Satisfying Than Simple Romance

The above exchange between Middleton and Willoughby is but one short example, one found in a much larger context of Elinor issuing a judgment over Willoughby made all the more damning by the restrained manner in which it is delivered. Austen has a singular ability to put into words the ineffable parts of life, for example: the mixture of anxiety and euphoria of love that is not yet confirmed to be reciprocal; the slow and typically ineffective process by which people try to talk themselves out of their feelings and then come to terms with them; the tension between adherence to social expectation and being true to one’s self; and, the process by which we learn that “one’s self” is partly discovered and partly developed over time. There is depth, but there is also levity: the characters take ample time to laugh at themselves and their foibles, as should we all.

There are times when I must admit I was lost in some of the social minutiae, but I don’t doubt that it had meaning and relevance if I had stopped to more fully consider it. Either way, I’m looking forward to the next work to read, whatever it is that my wife recommends.

**See Why Jane Austen Appeals to Girls (and Boys) Who Don’t Just Want a Boyfriend.

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  1. What a great, insightful review of SENSE AND SENSIBILITY! I completely agree that Jane Austen is for everyone. Glad your husband is out there arguing sensibly that men can read and enjoy Austen, too. (I wish my husband would listen.)

    1. Thanks, Jaclyn! I hope your husband will give Jane Austen a chance, too. Have you seen The Jane Austen Book Club? Theo Fenraven recommended it to me, and I think it’s a good movie for the Austen fans out there.

  2. Your husband sure can write AMB, look forward to his legal thriller. (Any recommendations for legal thrillers other than Grisham?) I still don’t have Austen on my wish list but the idea that she wrote for women only is probably a bit mad.

    1. Thanks, Roy! My husband produces a lot of legal writing, but doesn’t do much creative writing anymore. I hope that will change. He actually likes Grisham–he appreciates the exaggerated view of the legal profession. He doesn’t get much of an opportunity to read these days, though (particularly now that I’ve added all of Austen’s novels and my own WIP to his list!).

  3. That is wonderful your husband lent his thoughts. A whole different approach in many ways. One from a man’s perspective, but another that he wrote his review for the post. I have never read her books, but might now to see her “caustic wit” as noted above.

    1. I highly recommend reading Austen! I also recommend the BBC mini-series of Pride and Prejudice and the Emma Thompson movie of Sense and Sensibility (honestly, I haven’t seen a TV or film adaptation of Austen that I didn’t love).

  4. What a great review of Sense and Sensibility! The interesting thing is, for a long time Austen was considered a “man’s writer” because her books weren’t thought to be sentimental enough for women. I always tell people, male and female–READ her books, her caustic wit will blow you away.

    1. It’s interesting to hear that Austen was considered to be a “man’s writer” in the earlier part of her 200-year-old career (I think it’s interesting that her pseudonym was “A Lady,” and not a male name like the Bronte sisters chose). She certainly had some very prominent male fans, including Chief Justice John Marshall and Justice Story. Thanks for the comment!

  5. I think people paint the Bronte’s with the same..oh that is for chicks brush! I think it is a shame..and sometimes I think it’s because they are female authors who write about relationships..etc.

    1. Thanks, Jane! My husband used to write short stories, but he has stopped. I hope he’ll write a legal thriller someday. He’d write a great one (I’m biased, but I believe I’m right!).

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